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Making the Invisible, Visible
If therapy and Fight Club have a common thread, it's their first rule: don't talk about it. This code works wonders if you're in the loop, but it's less helpful when you're on the sidelines, contemplating whether or not to step into the ring.
Think of these articles as your insider's guide to therapy.
I'll offer you a candid view of my work as a therapist, without sacrificing the sacredness of my client's confidentiality. Like your favorite reality TV show, we'll delve into the highs, lows, and 'pour-the-red-wine' moments of life for women in their 30s and 40s.
I'm pulling back the curtain on the invisible world of therapy for women who think their struggles aren't "significant enough", one blog post at a time.
Why You Keep Thinking About Divorce and How to Break the Cycle
You think about divorce a lot for someone who likes being married.
“I shouldn’t feel so unhappy and irritable all the time,” you tell yourself, “and I definitely shouldn’t be thinking about leaving so much - I love my family.”
You don’t know this yet - but the thought of packing your bags isn’t about wanting to leave him; it’s about escaping the accumulating pressure inside, the relentless cycle of the same unresolved arguments.
Civility, Connection, and Community are Dead: How Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Can Help
Your fear of conflict and the avoidance strategy you’ve adopted in response is eroding the foundations of your relationships because you - the real you - she isn’t in those relationships anymore.
It’s not your fault - you were likely pre-dispositioned and then conditioned to be conflict-avoidant by nature. The fact that you live in 2024 just has you doubling down on it.
Here’s what to do about it.
What Are the Different Types of Parts in Internal Family Systems Therapy?
Over the next four blog posts, we'll be diving deep into the fascinating world of IFS parts. Today, in part one, we'll introduce you to the concept of parts and answer some key questions, like: What are parts? How many parts are there? How do I identify them? Do they have names? We'll also explore the idea of "polarized" parts, those internal battles that often leave us feeling stuck.
Unraveling Trauma with Internal Family Systems Therapy: A Gentle Path to Healing
Contrary to our automatic associations with the word, traumas aren’t always single, tragic, or life-threatening events. Just as often, traumas can be a collection of smaller experiences that have accumulated over time.
And, so often, the key to unlocking your full potential lies not in trendy visualization techniques or one-size-fits-all life hacks, but in exploring a hidden realm within, where traumas big and small can be healed, clearing the way forward into the life you desire?
What to Expect in an IFS Therapy Session
So, you've landed here after Googling "internal family systems therapist near me" (or some other IFS-related query), hoping to better understand something about IFS therapy, right? Understandable. I like to do a little homework before I start something new, too.
A Tale of Two Parts: A Case Study Based on Real IFS Sessions
Do you ever feel like you're at war with yourself? Logic pulls you one way, while a nagging anxiety whispers doubts in the other ear. Dive into a real client case study to see how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy empowers individuals to understand their inner conflicts. Learn how IFS helped a client heal past wounds, find self-compassion, and make decisions that felt truly aligned with her values.
From Drama Queens to Dream Team: The Goal of IFS Therapy
Ever feel like your emotions are a bunch of bickering roommates holding you hostage? Your "Inner Critic" won't stop nagging, your inner "Drama Queen" throws a tantrum over a missing emoji in a text, and your "Worry Wart" screams "danger!" at every turn. Your inner world is a reality show gone wrong (minus the entertainment value).
What Is IFS Psychodynamic Therapy?
Is IFS therapy that whole "psychodynamic" thing? You know, that therapy where you spend hours dissecting your relationship with your mother, your father, your childhood traumas, and unearthing buried memories? Not quite. Instead, it’s like the cool, tattooed cousin of traditional therapy – insightful, effective, and way more down-to-earth than that stuffy stereotype.
What is IFS Therapy Used For?
IFS therapy offers a revolutionary approach to healing and self-discovery because, unlike traditional therapy, IFS doesn't focus on fixing you. Instead, it guides you towards understanding and befriending various parts of yourself. That's the power of IFS - reworking the relationship you have with yourself, and by extension, others.
